It is good to know clearly who you are before you get into a relationship.

What do you want in a partner? Most people don’t know. They want someone nice. However, someone nice is extremely vague. You need to be more specific about what you would like in person you will be sharing your life with.

You might get attracted to someone who turns out to be the wrong person because he or she is not verbal enough, too verbal, too assertive, too passive, uncooperative, addicted to some substance or habit, dishonest, unreliable, uncaring, demanding, not intelligent enough or any number of personal quirks or traits you cannot manage to live with.

Many of these traits can fall within normal ranges, yet be unacceptable to you. Couples fight over smoking, eating habits, money, sleeping habits, religious differences, pets, children, friends, holiday and family traditions, house cleaning, and time schedules.

What kind of person are you?

Mentally step back and look at yourself as accurately as you can. Imagine a typical day in your life, and think about what you do: morning/evening routines, meals, work, play, and general lifestyle.

A large part of discovering yourself can be found in your relationships. When you realize you’ll never truly know anyone else until you discover yourself, the importance of knowing yourself becomes even clearer. Almost as much as you need to know yourself, other people also need to know who you are. People need you, the real you.